relationships

A lot of love goes into relationships. Cheap escorts in London know relationships are intense and can be amazingly good for love. You have been told that you need to find someone who makes you feel as special, as loved, and as safe as your mum does, but this is easier said than done. Nowadays finding a partner who can fill the role of a missing mum is harder than ever because many people find it difficult to trust this person enough to open up and reveal their innermost secrets. However, there are some reliable warning signs that a relationship might not be healthy for you or your partner. If you recognise any of these signs, then it is time to think about whether this relationship is taking you further away from your missing mum and deeper into unhealthy territory.

I have spent my life trying to fill the gaps in my childhood by making cross-generational relationships work. The gentle unspoken dialogue of comradery and mother/daughter exchanges have always been part of experiences at home – they are not something that I can ever recreate in a relationship with a man.

The first time I realised that I was not living in a happy marriage was when our first son was about ten months old. I had suffered from postnatal depression after having him and my husband did not like me. He considered me to be a bad mother, because we could not afford to live in the surrounding area of our affluent family and friends and because we had to do the school run in his van, which he bought for next to nothing from a friend.

After having the same friends and living in the same area for over twenty years my husband was a stranger to me. I knew the people who were in our local community and these relationships had become so ingrained that in some ways I felt as if we lived in two completely different worlds. I could not account for the way my husband treated me and I did not know why he was acting this way when he had always been so kind and loving to me.

Our son was an only child, so from an early age I felt like an outsider, but being married to my husband had given me a false sense of security. We had repeated conversations which left me feeling as if I was going mad, no matter how hard I tried to explain that I did not want to live in the same area any more.

I could not understand why he was so angry with me and demanded that we made a decision quickly. He said that he wanted to move away from our families and friends, but even though it seemed like he was trying to force us away from them, deep down I knew that this was not really the case. He was trying to make us fit in with his life as if we were just one of the many interchangeable commodities of his life – after all, my husband is a very successful businessman and many people envy him for that.